Problem with dating a younger man
I also noticed that many â [bold]not all,[/bold] but many â of the ones who are available:(1) only want to date guys who are in their 20s and early 30s;(2) have never been in a long-term relationship; if you are in your 50s, and you have never had a relationship that lasted longer than a few dates or a few months, that could be a real problem;(3) just gave up on themselves, i.e., decided that they no longer had to take care of how they look (as in they donât go near a gym and make exceptionally poor eating choices), and complain about their âailmentsâ as if they are 85 and in a nursing home;(4) are either just plain weird or have a harsh, bitter, jaded edge that is really unpleasant to be around. As I said, slim, but not nonexistent, so, hope springs eternal. It's a little annoying to me, but anyway it happens so you might as well try. Because younger guys looking for older men are looking for someone to take care of them.
Iâm very involved in the community, have a lot of friends and a fantastic dog, and never lack for things to do or people to do them with. Or, in the short term, buy them things and take them on trips.
What exactly is it then, OP, that would interest any of us in one of you?
I can't imagine how a site geared toward the old/young combo would attract anyone other than pervs and golddiggers.
It gave me a real complex and induced a crippling shyness in me. I'm still really shy so I never let it go to my head or take it seriously. The flip side of your story is that nobody wants you.
When I finally tell them the truth--that I'm old enough to be their father--they don't really care. It's a great thing not to look your age in the gay world, and I'm going to milk my great genetics as long as I can.
I am 45, not quite elder-gay but definitely middle-aged (in the truest sense, since I expect to live to be 90, at least). I am most definitely not looking to be a sugar daddy or any kind of daddy for that matter. Are there any dating websites geared toward this demographic, preferably one that isn't promoting a fetish, like silver daddy or bears, etc.?
Doll, in gay years you're not just an eldergay you're pretty much in God's waiting room.
I know lots of guys my age (40s) who are hung up on the idea that they want a 20-something boyfriend.
It's just not a reasonable demand..when I dig deeper I see that they are stunted emotionally in some way, and never had that 'perfect boyfriend' when THEY were in their 20's..can't move on from that until they get some young twink to fall in love with them. I meant to add that hooking up with younger guys is a whole 'nother story.